Before you find answers, ask yourself...
1. What music do you play?
2. What drum sound is needed for the type of music?
3. How loud does your drummer hit?
IMO, I prefer using soft-knee hardware compressors for overheads, ambient and room mics. It fattens the sound a lot. For close-mics, it really depends. Some types of music like 60s rock and modern jazz don't need compression (and gating) for the close mics. For louder music, close-mics definitely need hard knee compression.
I also noticed that tuning drums too tight don't really work well with high compression settings. Ultra-muffled and thuddy drums benefit pretty well from short-transient, fast attack compression.
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Your drummer wants to get those huge tom sounds, but his cymbals are almost on the same level as the toms. He wants fast-attack + gating for the toms and the snare, while he bangs the open hats very loudly. He gives you a Deftones reference drum sound, but he doesn't want any form of triggering or drum replacement.