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Anything Goes => Kalusugan, Kakisigan at Kaayusan => Topic started by: mozart123 on December 23, 2016, 04:51:06 PM
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Children who are smacked by their parents may grow up to be happier and more successful than those spared physical discipline, research suggests.
A study found that youngsters smacked up to the age of six did better at school and were more optimistic about their lives than those never hit by their parents.
They were also more likely to undertake voluntary work and keener to attend university, experts discovered.
The research, conducted in the United States, is likely to anger children’s rights campaigners who have unsuccessfully fought to ban smacking in Britain.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/6926823/Smacked-children-more-successful-later-in-life-study-finds.html
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parang hindi tama to
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pwedeng tama din naman.
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siguor konti lang, nagiging motivation siguro na pag-igihan nila ang buhay nia. pero tingin ko mas madami yung galit sa mundo at gusto ng gulo
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Yan ang difference bakit pasaway ang mga bata ngayon, di na sila napapalo. Ayun puro reklamador at palaban sa Magulang or guro.
Samantalang noon palo ka agad, mapa school or bahay, lumaki naman tayo na respectful haha
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siguro in moderate amounts at hindi pang ufc ang upakan, tsaka iexplain what they did to merit what was given as punishment.
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Yan ang difference bakit pasaway ang mga bata ngayon, di na sila napapalo. Ayun puro reklamador at palaban sa Magulang or guro.
Samantalang noon palo ka agad, mapa school or bahay, lumaki naman tayo na respectful haha
oo nga no, dati talaga hindi titigil ang palo sakin hangat hindi ako umiiyak. pero matino naman ako ngayon, sa tingin ko
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sa obserbasyon ko mas maigi pang paluin tapos pagsabihan yung bata kesa sigawan mo ng sigawan. yung tapat ng bahay namin, may 3 bata. yung nanay at tatay laging nakabunganga dun sa mga anak nila. ayun pag nakikita ko yung mga bata laging nakasimangot at parang laging dumidistansya sa mga tao kahit kapwa nila bata. di ko din nilalapit yung anak ko para makipag laro kasi napaka negative ng vibes nung pamilya talaga.
yung anak ko pag ayaw magpasaway pinapalo ko sa kamay. tapos sasabihin ko kung bakit hindi pwede yung ginagawa nya. the kind of discipline ive had with my grandmother was way worse than that. tambo, tsinelas, mga ganun. minsan iyak na iyak na ka di ka pa tinatantanan. sa edad ko ngayon naiintindihan ko yon dahil sobrang frustrating yung nawawala ka bahay ng 5 oras para maglaro ng family computer sa laruan lolz.
lastly, ok lang mag instill ka ng konting takot sa anak mo. konti lang. its to teach your kid to be responsible for his/her actions. its to make them foresee the possible consequences, lalo na pag alam nilang mali ang ginagawa nila.
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ngayon kahit yung mga lola hindi na napapalo ang mga apo nila, spoiled eh
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Well, I find this to be a bit true. Lumaki kasi ako sa lola ko na very strict. Kaunting pagkakamali lang, may palo agad. Pero hindi naman masakit. Umiiyak ako kapag nasisigawan ako.
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naniniwala talga ako na kailangan ang palo apra matutong matakot ang mga bata. I've seen it firsthand. yung mga bata ngayon, sobrang palaban, tska very entitled kasi hindi nakakatikim ng sinturon.
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ngayon kahit yung mga lola hindi na napapalo ang mga apo nila, spoiled eh
sinabi mo pa. biyenan ko nag aalaga sa anak ko pag weekdays dahil may work kami ni misis. ang hirap pag weekends may ugali yung anak mo na hindi maintindihan. hindi nasasaway o ayaw magpasaway. nung inobserbahan daw ng asawa ko, yung mama nya pala konting iyak nung bata sunod sya.
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sinabi mo pa. biyenan ko nag aalaga sa anak ko pag weekdays dahil may work kami ni misis. ang hirap pag weekends may ugali yung anak mo na hindi maintindihan. hindi nasasaway o ayaw magpasaway. nung inobserbahan daw ng asawa ko, yung mama nya pala konting iyak nung bata sunod sya.
oo pre, ganyan din sa anak ko, kapag pinapagalitan ko to the rescue ang lola
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oo pre, ganyan din sa anak ko, kapag pinapagalitan ko to the rescue ang lola
tuloy imbes na yung bata inaalala ko pag wala ako sa bahay, yung lola at mga posible nyang gawin ang inaalala ko.
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what a research, 179 kids? wow.
that doesnt sound like a valid statistical representation of ALL children. that could easily have been a mediocre college research paper.
naniniwala talga ako na kailangan ang palo apra matutong matakot ang mga bata. I've seen it firsthand. yung mga bata ngayon, sobrang palaban, tska very entitled kasi hindi nakakatikim ng sinturon.
i understand where this may come from.
are kids being bratty because of no smacking,
is smacking the cause? or the effect?
is being bratty the cause? or the effect?
my guess is, much of what a kid will do, will come from what he/she takes in from his/her environment.
don't give him/her violent videogames, or violent movies etc.
maybe it's a good thing, kids are palaban nowadays, when mature people are too conformists with things.
with the right guidance, you'll have kids that can fend for their own
if the kid grows up and sees you as the "enemy", well.. somebody messed up
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what a research, 179 kids? wow.
that doesnt sound like a valid statistical representation of ALL children. that could easily have been a mediocre college research paper.
i understand where this may come from.
are kids being bratty because of no smacking,
is smacking the cause? or the effect?
is being bratty the cause? or the effect?
my guess is, much of what a kid will do, will come from what he/she takes in from his/her environment.
don't give him/her violent videogames, or violent movies etc.
maybe it's a good thing, kids are palaban nowadays, when mature people are too conformists with things.
with the right guidance, you'll have kids that can fend for their own
if the kid grows up and sees you as the "enemy", well.. somebody messed up
smacking is the ultimatum. Kids may still grow bratty even if you reprimand them verbally. I've seen this. it isn't enough. negative punishment has its limitations.
there's a reason why video games have an age rating. its not the video game's fault. it's parent's fault for letting a 3 year old play Grand Theft Auto.
lastly, when I say palaban, its not in the good sense. its where the kid believes "it's my life, ill do what I want with it" kind of mindset. its not the, I am in the right, ill reason it out. please listen to me kind of palaban. its the, "so what if I'm wrong? mind your own business" kind. I believe that not the kind that you would like encouraged.
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maybe it's a good thing, kids are palaban nowadays, when mature people are too conformists with things.
with the right guidance, you'll have kids that can fend for their own
Yeah, too much. And still unable to fend for their own, Conformity, like defiance can be a good thing in doses. Look I see where the non-spanking idea comes from, because in poor families, it just becomes an avenue for parental frustration and a learning mechanism for violence. It's an abuse, much like anything else. But responsible parenting, even with corporal punishment, IMO is still a better approach. You can't change the result of irresponsible parenting by not spanking.
Disclaimer, hindi ako parent. But I know that the generations that had corporal punishment in their youth (selct years, not all of it) are better individuals than those who grew up feeling entitled and not having experienced real consequences of their misbehaviors. Kung millennial ka, you may disagree. :-D
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Yeah, too much. And still unable to fend for their own, Conformity, like defiance can be a good thing in doses. Look I see where the non-spanking idea comes from, because in poor families, it just becomes an avenue for parental frustration and a learning mechanism for violence. It's an abuse, much like anything else. But responsible parenting, even with corporal punishment, IMO is still a better approach. You can't change the result of irresponsible parenting by not spanking.
Disclaimer, hindi ako parent. But I know that the generations that had corporal punishment in their youth (selct years, not all of it) are better individuals than those who grew up feeling entitled and not having experienced real consequences of their misbehaviors. Kung millennial ka, you may disagree. :-D
millennial ako. and I don't disagree.
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disiplina , wag lagi lambot, paminsan pag medyo kailangang ng leksyon pero in my opinion kailangang may konting higpit
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90% love and 10% discipline is my ratio.