I don't think you could compensate with just EQ I think it would affect even your technique...
not eq alone, also the overall setup of the guitar
But I guess it would still boil down to taste...
pretty much..i have asked alot when its about NS or SS frets..builders offer them..Roy of TomAnderson guitars offers them no extra charge(complete base price of 2499), Bunker offers them $50 extra on trekker no charge on custom series, suhr offers them at $100 extra(custom)..
Also take into consideration that most of the greats still use nickel frets...
of course, they did that with NS and plus some of the things they didnt have back then..(multifx's,PLEK, true temperament frets etc)
but lets put that phrase in a different light because some will be quick to jump here and add the (if it good enough for '(insert artist name') its good enough for me, or fingers-tone discussion),
but to focus that -'yes' fret material can significantly alter a guitars sound..i believe that..just imagine having frets made of wood(some say ah it will sound warmer, what if the material was stone? that would be twice as hard to work with as NS frets lol..but it wouldnt be brighter in my mind)
so pretty much its all about options for your preferences..
me i like to have both..its just a good to have..guitars with SS(6105's) and NS(6105)..both great materials for frets